The debated purchase

These are my little 'gift to self'.  Yes... another!  I'll try to do better...  When these came on super sale, resistance was futile.  I folded quicker than Superman on laundry day with the opportunity of owning a pair of Alaia's and dare I say shoe history. After seeing these adorn the feet of many lovely ladies and secretly wishing I had a pair (I do love a studded or crazy ass shoe), I automatically just classified these heels as a must buy.  But the truth is, I've always wanted these in black.




Alaia lace up sandals from a selection (HERE)



Although the Alaia's are featured (kind of) here, this blog post really isn't about 'the shoes' as such, but rather about interpreting buying behaviour.  These shoes actually generated quite the discussion between my partner and I.  He has an aversion to white shoes, actually just heels, so isn't particularly fond of these new additions.  If these were black I know he would have warmed to them.  So what's in a colour?  Interestingly enough in the middle of our debate on these (I was probably loosing at this point), he posed a question to me, at what point do you draw the line?  Is the fact that they have been on my wish list (in a different colour) enough of a reason to buy them considering that these were not my number one choice and unconsidered prior to purchasing them in sheer desperation?

This made me think a little harder (and more than I cared to) to consider the dilemma of when you've been ogling an item for countless years and it comes available in another colour and not your colour of choice, do you buy it anyway?  Now in a practical head space I would normally say you need to consider if you like the item in that colour, if it is wearable and meshes with your personality and wardrobe, and whether you will always hold out and potentially buy the same item again in your original colour preference, should it come available. If you answer yes to this, then I say pass on the 'best man' option in the item and wait for your 'groom' and hope, god willing, that he (the beloved item) comes through for you.  In reality, I rarely test my thought process to that extent and seem to settle, especially with online purchases (due to the sheer fear of missing out) on the moto of buy now, think later and return if discovering I had a momentary lapse of good judgement or worse, was temporarily insane at the time of purchasing.

I have to admit having to justify this buy was a good exercise.  To be put in a position of being questioned on my buying strategy and at times, lack of strategy did unveil a few of my shortfalls.  It raised more than a few questions about a handful of other items in my wardrobe, but thankfully I've remained satisfied with the Alaia's, albeit in white. I think they will make a gorgeous summer shoe and thanks to sheer luck, actually go with a large part of my summer wardrobe.  I figured, worst case if my partner's view does rub off at any point and I need to back peddle, my boot man is a whizz at dying leather. I'm just saying... it's always an option.



23 comments:

  1. Honestly speaking, white is the best colour for a summer sandal. But..... Are they comfortable??

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    1. Surprising they are comfortable. I love shoes that are adjustable and I think that is this pairs biggest draw card with comfort :)

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  2. These heels are absolutely gorgeous and I totally understand that you had to have them. The debate about whether or not buying an item that has been on your wishlist but in a different color is something that's keeping me busy as well.

    From past experience I noticed that I always prefer something in a color that I wanted all along. But on the other hand, that always tends to be the safer option. I think it would be good to try out something different every once in a while. In my case I tend to always go for black, but trying some other colors might be a good way to expend my wardrobe making it a bit more versatile. If that makes sense...

    Oh well, it's just me justifying my buying behavior here... I've come to a point where I am seriously contemplating handing over by credit card to my bf to prevent further damage... Maybe 3 months from now... ;) xx Kayin

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    1. We have a similar buying issue with the loving black. I have so much black but the funny thing is I never ever get sick of it which is why I lean towards it. White (these heels) I think are equally good though colour wise. I think our bf's should meet! They can do a spending intervention together then :) xx

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  3. I like the way you think: "my boot man is a whizz at dying leather" that had me in giggles. I'm pretty good at sticking to a list. I don't over think things but I find that I'm quite decisive. The one item that's been causing me grief are those Isabel Marant sneakers. It's not really my style, but my husband thinks I could pull them off...so do I but I don't want to have to buy a whole other wardrobe around it! I don't know...that's the only thing I've had to think about in a while, other times I just know, either yes or no :) I can't wait to see how you style them Mandi xoxox

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    1. I'll have to get some tips from you for sticking to a list. I used to be be great with that (not sure what happened) and now I'm so impulsive. I think you could absolutely rock the IM sneakers. I was the same just because they were so different in the beginning but after the initial wear in was over, I was converted :) xx

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  4. AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH I have no words. AMAY. ZING. GAH. x

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  5. Beautiful shoes!
    I think the ability to dye them black is always a good fall back! I'm guilty of the "got to have it" syndrome too, but enough of my "second choice" or "just because it was on sale" purchases have turned out to be winners that I keep doing it. There are some big misses too, but when I see the "low in stock" or "only 1 left" I am often too hasty to buy!
    I find if I stay away from the sales I don't know what I miss out on and that makes me happier, but when you're waiting for something to come on sale you're more tempted to look and buy - even if it's not what you were waiting for.

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  6. I think they're equally stunning in white and will go with a ton of things! And as you mentioned, they'll make a great summer shoe but I think you could totally still rock them in winter...I love winter whites. :)

    xxTheresa

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  7. This is something that I think about a lot too, and in the past have bought said item in the other color only to be disappointed. I think you're lucky in that you could easily dye these,and what can I say, you can't deny their beauty. I look forward to seeing them in an outfit post x

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  8. I totally get your point, BUT those Alaias are beautiful, in white as well ;)
    t.

    http://wherecanifindthe.blogspot.com

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  9. Regardless of the colour, they are HOT!!
    Another hot purchase to your amazing wardrobe!!

    xx

    http://yadaah.blogspot.com.au

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  10. Amazing shoes !!!
    in white too :)

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  11. OOOOOOOOH I WANT those shoes... love!!! xO!
    www.thehautecookie.com

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  12. It's really good to have a strategy and I'm so glad you finally went for these because they are AMAZING!!

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  13. Recently, I've really been thinking about my buying behavior because I notice that I'll impulsively buy something and then not wear it or just wear it once. I don't know if I've gone the other end now because I'm taking a long time now to buy things. I don't want to waste my money. I don't even know if this is relevant to what you wrote, but bottom line, I think you'll wear them, and if you don't really like the color after awhile, a dye job will do the trick!
    - Aliya :)

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    1. I did a similar stint to you about 2 years ago with not buying anything. Then to my polar opposite times of buying too much and thinking not enough. Hopefully we learn a little along the way :)

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  14. Doesn't he like heels? Funnily enough, most men I've talked to about heels made rather disparaging comments about having to hang around waiting for their wives/girlfriends to catch up. They can't understand why anyone would want to hobble in pain. I guess women dress for themselves or other women. I think they're great. I normally wait till the right combination comes along only because I'm rather obsessive compulsive when it comes to purchases but rather impatient about most things.

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    1. He's not a fan no :) You are definitely right. Women do buy for themselves and more so for other woman. I think it's more flattering to be told you look nice from a woman than a man just because a woman can truly appreciate the effort. Maybe I'm wrong :) I'm too impulsive these days but trying hard to rein it in. Getting there :) xx

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  15. Thanks ladies for all the feedback. You've provided me with many good comments (material) to support my case for loving them :) xx

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  16. Read the whole story, it is pretty interesting. I tend to not buy things if it is not exactly the colour that I want it to be. But anyways, I like the white Alaia's much better than the black ones. So great purchase! Love them, they are sooo pretty!! Xo

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  17. I just read this today and I loved them in orange when I first saw them. But white shoes are so hot now. You have a fashion instinct! :)

    xxx
    Nina
    http://trendsurvivor.com/

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